Understanding Homeschooling for 5 Children

“How Do You Do It?”

(Spoiler: I Don’t Do It All. And That’s the Secret.)

This is a question I get a lot.
From friends, followers, fellow moms. Sometimes whispered with awe. Sometimes blurted out mid-coffee.

“How do you do it?”
—raising five kids
—homeschooling
—running a business
—keeping your sanity

Here’s the truth:
I don’t do it all.
And I definitely don’t do it all at once.

But here’s what I do try to do:

🌿 I choose what matters most, over and over again.

I’ve learned that doing it “all” is an illusion.
So instead, I ask: What matters today? Is it showing up for my kids? Creating something beautiful? Resting my mind for five minutes?

It shifts every day—and that’s okay.

💛 I build in grace.

Grace for myself when the laundry wins.
Grace for my kids when the math lesson flops.
Grace for the version of me that is learning to hold a lot and let some things go.

📚 I stay rooted in why I do this.

I didn’t choose this path because it was easy. I chose it because it was right—for our family, for our rhythm, for this season of life.

And on hard days? I return to that why like a lighthouse.

✨ I embrace the beautiful chaos.

Let’s be honest: it’s rarely peaceful and Pinterest-perfect over here. It’s loud. It’s messy. It’s a glorious, layered swirl of agate clocks and cereal bowls and read-alouds and business dreams.

But it’s ours. And that makes it beautiful.

💻 I’ve learned to blend—not balance.

Balance implies it all gets equal time. But real life? It’s a dance.
Sometimes motherhood leads. Sometimes creativity does.
Sometimes I’m all in on my business, other times I’m all in on my family. I’ve stopped fighting that.

So how do I “do it all”?

I don’t.

I do what matters. I do what’s mine.
And I let go of the rest—gracefully, and sometimes not-so-gracefully. 😅

If you’re feeling stretched or second-guessing yourself, hear this:
You are doing more than enough.
You don’t need to juggle everything. You just need to carry what’s yours today.

And if no one’s told you this in a while—
You’re doing an amazing job. Truly. 💫